Non-penetrative sex or outercourse (which includes frottage, heavy petting and mutual masturbation) is sexual activity without vaginal, anal, or oral penetration, as opposed to the penetrative aspects of those activities. It is often considered a form of safer sex and birth control, as it is less likely that bodily fluids are exchanged.
Types of non-penetrative sexual activity
The term "frottage" derives from the French verb frotter (i.e. to rub). Three terms derive from frotter. These include frottage, the sexual act involving rubbing; frot, the sexual act that refers exclusively to male-male genital rubbing without penetration (but may also be called frottage); and frotteurism, a paraphilia involving obsession with frottage or performing frottage non-consensually (e.g. pressing one's genitals against a stranger on a crowded subway); this was once called "frottage," but the usage is no longer acceptable.
In current usage, frottage is the act of achieving sexual pleasure with a partner or partners, whether naked or clothed (more commonly known as dry humping or dry sex), without penetration. This can include using almost every part of the body, including the buttocks, the breasts, abdomen, thighs, feet, hands, legs, and sexual organs. Frottage can include genital-genital contact, sometimes called genito-genital or GG rubbing, and most of the other forms of non-penetrative sex.
There are different reasons a couple may choose frottage. The most common reasons are as a form of foreplay before penetration, as a method to achieve sexual gratification without the more sexually explicit oral, vaginal or anal sexual intercourse, which may be a way of preserving virginity, or as a form of safe sex. Often, young people will use frottage as an earlier stage of sexual intimacy before more explicit contact is desired, or as a substitute to penetration to maintain a higher degree of chastity.
Lap dances often involve clothed frottage. A modern dancing style which involves partners rubbing their clothed bodies on one another is called "grinding," "freaking," or "Sandwich dancing" . This is sometimes referred to in Spanish as "perrear" ("dogging"), a term that came from Puerto Rico and later became the famous dance for reggaeton.
Other terms associated with frottage are:
- scrumping: a colloquialism for dry humping. A portmanteau of scratching and humping.
- grinding, dubbing, freaking: a modern dancing style that involves partners rubbing their clothed bodies on one another.
- Princeton rub, Ivy League rub, and so on are slang terms referring to male-male frot or interfemoral intercourse or both, presumably surviving from the days when these colleges only admitted men. W. H. Auden was proud of having been the first person to use the terms "Princeton rub" and "Princeton first-year" in print.
Mutual masturbation (also called manual intercourse) is a sexual act where two or more people stimulate themselves or one another sexually, usually with the hands. This may be done in situations where the participants do not feel ready, physically able, socially at liberty, or simply willing to have full sexual intercourse but still wish to have a mutual sexual act. It is also done as part of the full repertoire of sexual intercourse, where it may be used as an interlude, as foreplay or simply as an alternative to penetration. For some, it is the primary sexual activity of choice above all others.
Mutual masturbation can be practiced by those of all sexual orientations. If used as an alternative to penile-vaginal penetration, the aim may be to preserve virginity or to prevent pregnancy. Some may choose it because it can achieve sexual satisfaction without penetration or an alternative to casual sex.
The techniques of mutual masturbation resemble those of simple masturbation, with the exception that other persons are involved. The range of participation can be as simple as two participants masturbating in the same room at the same time without any physical contact to a group of people all stimulating one another. In the case of two participants, one partner may stimulate the other, each partner may stimulate the other or themselves, or one may stimulate their self and their partner.
Mutual masturbation might result in one or more of the partners achieving orgasm. If no bodily fluids are exchanged (as is common), mutual masturbation is a form of safe sex, and greatly reduces the risk of transmission of sexual diseases. As such, it was encouraged among gay men by some safer sex organizations in the wake of the AIDS outbreak of the 1980s, as an alternative to anal or oral sex.
In partnered manual genital stroking to reach orgasm or expanded orgasm, both people focus on creating and experiencing an orgasm in one person. Typically, one person lies down pant-less, while his or her partner sits alongside. The partner who is sitting uses his or her hands and fingers (typically with a lubricant) to slowly stroke the clitoris or penis and genitals of the partner. Expanded orgasm as a mutual masturbation technique is said to create orgasm experiences more intense and extensive than what can be described as, or included in the definition of, a regular orgasm. It includes a range of sensations that include orgasms that are full-bodied, and orgasms that last from a few minutes to many hours. The term was coined in 1995 by Patricia Taylor. However, this technique is not without risk of contracting STDs, in particular HIV. A person using his or her finger, with a small wound, to stimulate a woman's genitals could be infected with HIV found in her vagina's fluids; likewise regarding a man's semen containing HIV which could infect a partner who has a small exposed wound on his or her skin.
- Axillary intercourse
- (slang: "bagpiping", in reference to the underarm manner in which bagpipes are played; "directing traffic", or "pit-wank", a variant of the term "tit-wank", are also terms for axillary intercourse) a sexual variant where the penis is inserted in the other person's armpit.
- Erotic massage
- rubbing all over, with or without oil.
- stimulating genitals with the feet.
- penis-to-penis rubbing.
- stimulating the penis with the hand.
- Intercrural sex
- (also known as interfemoral intercourse) type of irrumation, where one partner places a phallic object or penis between the other partner's thighs.
- Intergluteal sex
- when one partner places a phallic object or penis into the other partner's buttock cleavage or gluteal cleft.
- Mammary intercourse
- when one partner rubs a phallic object or penis between the partner's breasts.
- Stimulation of nipples
- stimulating the nipples, usually orally or manually.
- type of stimulation of male genitals popular in Japanese brothels: the woman rubs the man's penis with her hands, thighs and labia majora.
- vulva-to-vulva rubbing, commonly known by its "scissoring" position.
- stimulating the vulva/vagina or anus with the fingers.
- Oral sex
- stimulation of the genitalia by the use of mouth, lips, tongue, teeth or throat.
Interfemoral intercourse and genital rubbing, although notionally forms of non-penetrative sex, can carry a risk of pregnancy through transfer of the sperm-bearing fluids to the sex organs.
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